Dear Mrs. Lindsey (Reported name of West Virginia teacher whose mic-grabbing has gone viral)

 

 

Dear *Mrs. Lindsey* (Reported name of West Virginia teacher whose mic-grabbing has gone viral),

I bet Tuesday morning when you woke up, you had no idea what this week held. And now you are one of America’s Most Hated People. People are writing petitions demanding you be fired instantly. Calling for physical violence. Criticizing your appearance, your weight, your facial expressions, your ability to teach. Jamming your school’s phone lines, condemning your administrators, and hurling every type of profanity and vulgarity in your direction. Your personal phone number has been published and the phone number and address of your school has been viewed by tens of thousands. You have to be bewildered and panicked. You obviously didn’t see this coming. And as a teacher, it makes me frightened for all of us.

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I learned of you only because a headline came through my FB newsfeed. *Elementary Teacher Makes Autistic Student Cry When She Snatches His Microphone During Thanksgiving Play.*  Wow, you sound like a disgrace to the profession. I got this mental image of The Teacher From The Black Lagoon leaping on stage and ripping a microphone from a child’s hands while knocking him backwards off the platform with her scaly tail and of him sprawled on the floor weeping. And it made me mad. So I watched the very short clip. I observed the narrative presented by the parent grow and develop new details as the media ran with this heartbreaking holiday tale. Then I read your administrator was standing with you and no discipline was being taken. I decided to dig a little deeper.

I watched the play in its 12 minute entirety. I urge others to do the same. It looked exactly like every other first grade performance the day of a full Supermoon just before Thanksgiving break. In other words, it was a hot mess. Just like it is at all schools.

The construction papered Mayflower travelers and their indigenous friends shuffled in and out – occasionally at wrong times and unsure of exactly which way to leave the stage and several either forgot their lines or never bothered to learn them. Caleb, the child in question – playing the part of the turkey – appears to refuse to go to the mic to say his first line and the children quickly adapt and go around him. The next time Caleb is supposed to speak, he is unaware that the mic will be as loud as it is and the volume sends the audience and Pilgrims and Indians into peals of laughter.

You quickly get the children to speak in chorus so the laughter is minimized.  Another little boy flubs his lines and the mirth of the participants intensifies and I can feel the red rising in your face and the sweat starting to form. Caleb correctly speaks a line and then wanders aimlessly around the stage a few times which is reasonable considering his disability. It appears that a different teacher stage left is attempting to coach him to return to his correct place. A little boy gets to the mic to say his line and he just can’t do it. He dissolves into giggles and takes with him the entire gym.

Caleb’s next line is supposed to be humorous and he nails it. Laughter. There is a very nice song that appears to pull the program back together. During the music, Caleb sings loudly and often at the wrong times – again, very understandable and only noticeable because his mom has the recording directed right on him. However, the child next to him senses the amusement of the audience and begins to ham it up. Kids singing in the front row turn around and stare at Caleb and giggle at him.

The atmosphere is fragile and it is time to bring this production in for a landing.

Two children step to the mic to thank the audience for coming. Somehow, Caleb is back in front. It does not appear that he is supposed to be there. It looks exactly like every first grade Thanksgiving production across the United States. No one in the world would care at all about this story except for what happens next…

You had to make a split second decision and there was no way to know it could affect the rest of your life or anyone else’s. Before Caleb could speak, you took the mic. You didn’t yank it from his hand. You walked over and were ready to take it from the stand as soon as the last line was delivered, which deprived Caleb of his self-given moment and he had an emotional outburst. It is hard to tell if you didn’t notice Caleb or if you deliberately preempted him. Either way, he was unable to speak into the mic.

Did you make the right decision? Who knows. By the reaction of the armchair Thanksgiving musical directors it appears that removing the mic was the moral equivalency of shoving a child into a corner wearing a dunce cap. What ifs are a tough game to play. Life is a giant Choose Your Own Adventure book except you don’t get to flip back and make a different decision if you mess up.

Having been in similar situations I’m going to guess you were hoping to save Caleb from further embarrassment. You were hoping to keep the place from laughing more. You weren’t sure if Caleb would deliver an appropriate line or a string of words he learned from HBO. You knew that autistic children can behave more erratically in a situation in which there is sensory stimulation or at an event that is atypical in routine. You erred on the side of prevention. It also appears like your coworkers were in support as in the longer video they are seen trying to coax him off the platform. The mother’s posts indicate you are not even his teacher as she is unsure of your name – maybe Mrs. Linsey – and refers to you as *one* teacher rather than *his teacher.* This is pure speculation but it would seem that you moving so quickly means that there was previous discussion among staff of how this type of situation would be handled and you acted accordingly.

What is interesting to me is the mom’s voice during the recording. There’s a point early in the play where she says very flatly, dejectedly even, “Yeah, that’s Caleb.” Her emotion for how her child is perceived can be felt through the recording. She doesn’t like the laughter. She pleads in a whispered prayer for him to get his fingers out of his mouth. She knows he’s being laughed at and that he isn’t even aware of the ridicule and it breaks her heart. I don’t necessarily blame her for her reaction. I hurt for her. But I also think she is being unreasonable and is irresponsible in her demand for revenge. Not justice. Revenge. Her actions are not going to make the school a better place. They are keeping other parents from being able to contact the administrator about equally important issues. They’re broadcasting to thousands of people the faces and location of dozens of other children. They are dragging the school into what will be months of a public relations and HR nightmare, which will distract from the school’s fundamental purpose. And, they’re firing up a hateful, irrational mob. Sadly, the end result will most likely not be a better learning environment for Caleb.

Here is what should be terrifying for all educators. 30 seconds, on film, taken out of context, could end careers and destroy lives. Show me a teacher who has never snapped at a child in exasperation, has never misinterpreted a situation and doled out improper consequences, has never erred in judgment, has never wished they could take back a word or action and I will show you a tap dancing unicorn. The same could be said for parents. There are some pretty unrealistic expectations for educators. Very few teachers enjoy being on display at public events. Teachers get stage fright, just like everyone else. I get sick to my stomach and lightheaded and my thoughts and words get all tangled any time I have to face a full auditorium of parents, students, and coworkers. I know every avoidance technique to get out of speaking publicly. But I’m a good teacher. A really good teacher. I have made some horrible public blunders, including a Steve Harvey moment in which I awarded a prize to the wrong student. It was a dozen years ago and I still wilt each time I remember it.

In my early days of teaching – nearly two decades ago – a mom wandered down the hall while a child and I were working out some issues. She was not the mom of the child, nor of any child in my classroom. Thankfully, this was before the days of cell phone cameras or I would be on the receiving end of internet shame. What the mom caught was me cutting off the child each time she attempted to speak. Calmly but sternly directing her to walk to a previously determined calming down location. The mom saw just a snippet – what appeared to be me callously interrupting the child and repeating for her to go where she needed to be. The child was crying by this point and continuing to attempt to speak. The mom interjected herself and began yelling at me for not listening to the child. She said she was going to my administrators. She was livid. Even the crying child stopped her commotion and her eyes grew wide and she quickly headed down the hall to where she was supposed to be. I ignored the parent and returned to my classroom and my administrator knew the larger context and nothing happened. Nothing happened because that one moment wasn’t captured and sent to the world. One moment can look really bad. But what it doesn’t show is that the child had been retained at the administration’s recommendation and the child’s mother agreed only if the child could have me for a second year. It doesn’t show that the parent, special education teacher, social worker, administrator, and an outside consultant had spent hours and hours devising an individualized plan that included zero tolerance for this child arguing once a final decision had been made by an adult. It doesn’t show the child and her mom at my house for dinner (this was back in the olden days when it wasn’t creepy to do such) or me attending her sports events. It doesn’t show the card in which she declared me the best teacher in the world. Could my school have withstood the pressure and not fired me had that small clip been aired to the public? I hope so. We all should hope so.

 

The unfair thing about these situations is a parent can say anything they want about a school. They can accuse the school of all sorts of misdeeds and intentions of malice. They can dash to the media and present a snippet and the press rejoices over anything that can make public schools look bad and can be worded as click bait. Parents can broadcast any action of a teacher that they happen to snag on video and allow the universe to weigh in. Not to comment simply about the educational decision that was made but to critique wardrobe, weight, and attractiveness in a way that anyone reading such about themselves would be humiliated and never want to face the world again. The school is completely restricted at that point. They can’t speak about the child. They can’t present the public with the child’s records. They can’t list all of the accommodations teachers have made or even show longer videos that provide better context. They and the teacher are helpless. I truly hope people will keep that in mind before they weigh in on these situations.

So, Mrs. Lindsey… I don’t know you. You might be as awful as some people are claiming and deserve to be done with your career. If that is true, farewell. But if you and your colleagues know this is an unfair characterization of you – I hope your district continues to stand up for you and that your fellow educators surround you with care and comfort. I hope that somehow you can ignore the shout of the mob and find a way to enjoy the holiday. I hope there is healing in this fractured relationship between your district and the public. I wish for you compassion and grace.
Sincerely,

A Teacher

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322 thoughts on “Dear Mrs. Lindsey (Reported name of West Virginia teacher whose mic-grabbing has gone viral)

  1. It is very obvious to me that I owe this teacher an apology. As I work with a child with autism, I was very infuriated by the teachers actions….. before I knew the whole story. Another prime example of social media scams and stories only telling the part they want attention for. That being said, I am so much in agreement that since the child had not been to any practices or had any part in the play originally, by no means should he have been allowed in the play at all. The teacher was actually being very generous allowing him to take part at all. Here is the thing…. autism is a WORD! Yes it is classified as a “disease” of sorts, but it does not define a child, and it certainly does NOT warrant special privileges to a child because they are “special.” The fact that this child is at a fuctioning level high enough for this child to even be in a regular classroom or that he can even speak for that matter is a great Blessing thst his parents should be extremely thankful for. There are so many who aren’t.
    Mrs. Lindsey, I do sincerely offer my apologies to you for my comment in the original post I read on this matter. I was very quick to judge and should have known there was more to this story. Please forgive my unfounded quick judgement of your actions and know that I pray God’s Blessings for you as you continue to do that which you love in educating children and teaching them to be the best that they can be and that there are no limits even if they have some classification of a “disability.”
    To Caleb’s Mother….. I understand that Caleb is “special,” but please know and recognize that he is “special” to you and to all who know and love him, and most importantly, he is absolutely most “special” to God who created him….. but he is NOT so special that he does not have to abide by the same rules and requirements of every other child in this world to be and do the things that he and they want to be and do. You are teaching your child that he is privileged and entitled because of the word autism. Teach him to reach for the stars, teach him that just like everyone else, he must work hard to attain the goals in life that he desires to attain. Caleb has all the potential and probably an even better advantage (as most children with autism are highly intelligent) than a lot of kids out there have. Don’t try to limit him and don’t ever let anyone try to “dumb him down.” He is bright enough to know that you would make sure he got to do the play even though he had not attended and participated in the practices or worked for the opportunity to be a part of it. Imagine what he could do and be if you teach him that privilege and opportunity come from diligence and hard work. autism is merely a word…..it does not define who or what Caleb is or can and will be….

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  2. I watched the entire video. I saw a child who had no clue what he was supposed to do and who disrupted the production several times. I saw a teacher grab the mic when she knew the show was over. I saw a family ruin a teacher’s life because they felt entitled to demand their child be a part of the show and a lot of people who took 30 seconds of video way out of context. I am sad because this teacher could be me or on of my colleagues. I’m sad because I’ve seen this too often. Parents my love their children, but they can’t seem to trust those of us who have taken the classes, undergone countless hours of training to work with children like this, and those of us who do what must be done to educate all children.

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  3. I’m sorry that you have to suffer the consequences of people thinking with their emotions and not with the facts. You did nothing wrong. I hope this blows over soon and that things work out in a way that doesn’t affect your job or your person.

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    1. Mrs. Lindsay – I am sorry that you are going through this. Where has the discipline gone. Instead of always blaming someone else parents need to look at their children. Enough of his already. The mother is out of control, stop all the drama.

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  4. Dear Mrs. Lindsey,

    I am sorry you are going through this horrible ordeal. I can only imagine the struggle you have had in the past in dealing with the mother of this child.

    There are a few things I would like to share with you. One, when I first read the slanderous post, I did not believe it, but I also did not have enough information to “make a stand” either way. So, I read the comments from the shared post which expressed how I felt which was not enough information to make any judgement of what happened. Please know, not everyone believed it. It was mostly the fool-hardy who have little self-restraint belted out their unreasonable cry of hatred. Their over-reaction made me trust their opinions even less.

    Two, the reason why many good people say nothing is because they realize they don’t have enough information to make any kind of judgement. For myself, I have been a victim much like you but on a lesser scale. I remember not being surprised that some people inhaled the smoke-screen of inflammatory gossip, getting high on their inflamed emotions. It hurt but I told myself I need to just move on because there will always be tale-bearers. Over time, I became crest-fallen when I felt that searching look from people I knew and admired and thought they knew me well enough to not believe any of the gossip going around about me. I knew they had at least listened to the horrible things being said about me. I felt them distant themselves from me and our otherwise candid conversations were now limited to just casual conversations. about nothing much. It felt like they didn’t want to take to me any more.

    I didn’t know what “news” was going on about me, until I overheard a conversation from my best friend bad-mouthing me to her mother. A friend who I had helped raise her children and was more like a favored Aunt. Total betrayal. I confronted her without telling her how I knew and she denied every hint that she was any part or even knew anything about it.

    I can only hope someone defended me but I will never know. What I do know is that out of about 120 women in that social community, only one, just one woman came to me and confronted me with an accusation that was being blown around, for I learned there were many. She was upset about something she thought I had done but because of the good-will I have shown to one of her troubled children and with the support of her husband by her side, she apparently needed to get to the bottom of the matter so she could either change her opinion of me or change her opinion about the gossip.

    One day it will be over and you will look back and see the greater strength and wisdom you have developed as you work your way though your feelings. Don’t let yourself react now matter how much you are hurt or angry now that you have the support you deserved. Here is the story of someone I admire.

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  5. When I first saw the uproar about this I was puzzled, and I still am. Numerous people have chastised Mrs. Lindsay for “smirking” as she “snatched” the microphone. Ummmm…..I never saw that. In fact, I’m not even sure she SAW Caleb. Is she his regular ed teacher or special needs teacher? Why didn’t she have some help? As the music teacher, I do not “put on” a show without help. Perhaps another adult helping could’ve prevented this firestorm of nastiness….. As to the other things that have happened: death threats, sexual assault threats, putting her home address on Facebook….beyond inappropriate, and doesn’t help Mama’s case at all. Sad situation indeed.

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  6. When I first saw the uproar about this I was puzzled, and I still am. Numerous people have chastised Mrs. Lindsay for “smirking” as she “snatched” the microphone. Ummmm…..I never saw that. In fact, I’m not even sure she SAW Caleb. Is she his regular ed teacher or special needs teacher? Why didn’t she have some help? As the music teacher, I do not “put on” a show without help. Perhaps another adult helping could’ve prevented this firestorm of nastiness….. As to the other things that have happened: death threats, sexual assault threats, putting her home address on Facebook….beyond inappropriate, and doesn’t help Mama’s case at all. Sad situation indeed.

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  7. I have directed many a play in a few different churches over many, many years. I feel for this teacher. My experience was as a member of a church staff in which the two volunteer directors of children’s choir answered to me. One particular Christmas they informed me that a child with a mediium sized speaking role was missing most rehearsals. When he was there he didn’t know his lines or the songs. His parents were not responding to efforts made by the director reaching out nor to one conversation in which I explained the importance of being at rehearsal for the good of all. Two weeks before the production the director came to my office 30 minutes after the two hour once per week rehearsal began to say he was not there again and her suggestion was to reassign the part (mind you she had years of experience as the kids choir director so I deferred to her). I called the child’s home to find out that due to laying linoleum in their kitchen neither parent was going to take a break to drop him off to practice. I nicely but firmly informed mom that if he was not brought over the part had to be reassigned.

    Was the father angry? Yes. Did he demand a meeting with me? Yes. We’re my two church elders/superiors at that meeting? Yes. Did I only at that point find out there was a learning disability involved? Yes. Did I apologize? Yes BUT only that the child was hurt. Did I believe and make clear that though I understood the parents were trying to protect their son from being labeled they should have told me or someone they trusted that the part was too much? Yes. If I had been given that info earlier, would things have been handled differently? Yes. When I sought advice from my small network of area children’s ministers as to whether they would have done the same in my shoes did they all say yes? Yes. Did my church board stand behind me and my decision? Yes. After twenty years and more experience, would I handle the same situation the same way? Yes.

    I did what was best for the program, the 20 + children who made it to practices, the volunteer directors, and yes, even the child. And I think we can all agree that Mrs. Lindsey was put in a position she most certainly could not win! My prayers are with her and her family and with the school.

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    1. With regard to church plays, I have directed many. Last year’s was a fairly substantial musical. During a portion of it, off to the side the nativity is going on as part of the play. Where I was seated to direct the majority of the musical, I didn’t have a good view of the nativity area. I could hear people laughing & I had no idea why. In the video later – I could see the whole picture. The Angel of the Lord – for whatever reason – was spinning in circles. Round and round and round. *Joseph* got mad and abandoned Mary & the Christ Child to get his mom to tell on the Angel (his sister). It was actually hilarious on the video but the parents were embarrassed so I’ve never posted it out of respect for them. The point is, when you are directing, you have such tunnel vision. You don’t see all the parts and all that’s going on. You’re totally focused on what’s supposed to happen next. Last line delivered, grab mic and smile at audience is a very logical thing to do. It makes me afraid to direct any more plays!!!!

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  8. After viewing the entire YouTube video, I don’t understand this mom’s complaint about her son not being allowed to “say his line.” It is clear that Caleb said many “lines” throughout the presentation, all of which had nothing to do with the topic. Caleb’s mom is totally wrong in this situation. She owes this teacher a huge apology, and she will be lucky if she doesn’t get hit with a harassment or defamation of character suit. Wow! To the teacher, you did a wonderful job preparing your students for their presentation. Thank you for your effort and hard work. I wish you much luck. God bless you.

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  9. I never jumped to conclusions . I thought possibly the child might have been ready to say something inappropriate , as sometimes, some autistic children do. I thought maybe the teacher was avoiding an embarrassing situation. I’m so sorry to read that she has been bombarded with hateful things being said about her. I wish her and the child all the best. And the mother seek help.

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  10. I have many years of experience in community theater working with children and adults. Some of them are on the autism spectrum. There are two rules we follow. First, you must be cast in order to participate (and no, not everyone is cast. Learning to deal with disappointment is an important skill). Second, no rehearsal, no performance. It’s not fair to those who took the time to show up and learn their lines. If it was really that important to the mom, she would have brought him to rehearsal or at least discussed the situation with the teacher before the night of the show. I smell a setup here.

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  11. My heart goes out to you in so many ways. I too am a teacher and have suffered the daggers of falsehoods. Be true to yourself and stay the course. The storm WILL eventually subside and you WILL be able to resume life as you know it. The way the world is today, attention spans are equal to that of a newt and soon, very soon, they will be turning their negative energy toward the next poor victim who had no idea this was happening to them. I’m very sorry this happened to you. There are some great parents and colleagues standing in support for you, and I really hope the operators of social media scrub that piece of garbage she posted off the face of the internet. They owe that to you. And at the very least they owe you the royalties for every time it’s viewed, so you can at least be compensated for your troubles. AND you may want a lawyer to take up a defamation suit with the parent who started all this – check with your Union or Congress of Teachers as they may provide you one at a minimal cost or even free! People like this cannot be allowed to walk away without some consequence, not for what they did to you! I stand with you in solidarity.

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  12. I too am sorry. I jumped to the same conclusions as everyone else who read the story and judged wrongly. I have a disabled child (Down Syndrome), and it is our responsibility as parents to help them have the extra practice as needed, etc. to be able to do the “normal” things…. Of course, accommodations have to be made (by law), to allow our special kids to have the same opportunities as their peers, and of course they often (due to medical or other reasons) may not have the stamina or ability to handle full practices, etc. BUT, this was clearly a mother with an entitlement attitude and not caring who she hurt and she clearly wanted attention. The teacher was entirely in the right to take the microphone away from a child who had no business having it in the first place, and to gently move on with whatever she had to at the time.

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  13. Great, now my stupid Apology video is lagging and won’t let me edit it. Anyway, it’s probably acting this way to make me feel bad. I AM feeling bad.

    So,

    I’m sorry, Ms. Lindsey, for a person with an Intellectual Disability and even though it may appear to be a lie, I’m not lying at all. I was wrong. I judged you. I came to conclusions and read your story wrong and no matter how much you and your feelings are hurt and offended as well as those who are reading this post, just know, it take a TRUE person to apologize. It may not matter because you all are probably thinking of me to be a mean and stupid person who should feel bad until I rot and have this haunt me.

    Truth: I am feeling terrible and I feel sick. Yes, I deserve to feel sorry for what I said and did, and you know what? I am sorry and no matter how much you think I’m lying and laughing, I’m not. I’m even going to make a video about this. Take it or leave it. It’s your loss if you all think I’m lying.

    😰💕🙏🤕

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  14. I have to admit to being one of the many to judge this woman harshly (though I never wished any kind of harm on her or her children and I’ve certainly never tried to get her fired or anything ridiculous that). I have a little brother with autism (& contrary to what some of you rather ignorant people have commented he is NOT a bad little boy that throws tantrums to get his way -in fact, he’s probably the most well behaved of any of us) and seeing the 30 second video immediately threw me into a “if someone EVER did this to Jaylen, I’d…” mindset. However, after reading several different articles and comments from teachers and parents at the school, I feel horribly ashamed for ever feeling any anger towards this teacher. Caleb’s mother should be ashamed of herself as well, and apologize to her son, the teacher, the school, and everyone she let believe the fairytale she created to gain attention. She is doing him no favors by coddling him, and is setting him up for an adult life rife with obstacles and meltdowns. My brother flourishes because my father and stepmother raised him the same as my siblings and myself. This mother could learn from that.

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  15. I feel so bad about even accepting the first version of what happened as being correct. People need to slow down, not jump to conclusions, and if something catches there attention and they want to take sides, they should look into it before villainizing another person.

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  16. Mrs. Lyndsey, this taught many of us to learn the facts before making a snap judgement. I am so sorry I jumped to a negative conclusion before knowing both sides of the story. I hope and pray you weather this storm and emerge stronger than ever. Thank you for serving the children in your care. Teachers are so vilified by the media, public and parents these days. We need to support one another rather than tear each other down. Prayers for you!

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  17. I am praying for the full truth to be revealed and for the hate and bashing to stop immediately. Praying for all of you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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  18. The VICTIM in this incident is a 6 year old child.

    According to the superintendent “We deeply regret the recent incident involving a teacher and student during a Thanksgiving program at one of our schools. We understand and sympathize with all who have expressed and voiced outrage, disappointment, and concerns. Your message has been heard. We have the same concerns and are working to resolve these issues. We sincerely apologize to the student, family, and all who have been impacted by this incident.”

    Yet the teachers, staff, PTSO officers have continued to blame the victim and his family for the “incident” we have all seen. I was hopeful after the statement by Dr. Manchin that what he said was true however as I see all the posts from the people involved in the school I see it is not and they will continue in their discriminatory beliefs and actions.

    Victim blaming is a serious society issue in the world today that “occurs when the victim of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially responsible for the harm that befell them”. In this case the wrongful act of snatching the mic and hurting the child has been turned into blaming the victim and his family for this action as seen the various articles and posts quoting teachers, staff, and PTSO officers.

    Some very serious training needs to be done at this school not just on Autism but in taking responsibility for a wrongful act and not victim blaming.

    Had the statement by the superintendent not been negated by others in the district it would have been a positive ending to one negative action. A teacher made a mistake it was handled apologized for and training was in place to avoid it happening again. However, all of that was negated as others in the district have shown they continue to feel no wrongful act was committed and that it was the child and his parents fault that made the teacher commit the wrongful act. This shows the district does not take responsibility, apologize, or plan on learning about autism or better ways of handling situations to keep this from happening again.

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    1. So you’re saying all the reports are false? The reports that Caleb’s mother insisted he be put in the play at the last minute despite having had no part and attending no rehearsals, and that he was encouraged to speak into the microphone by his mother despite having no planned lines and the teachers being aware of no lines?

      Unless that’s all lies, there’s no way to defend the mother and put the blame on the teacher. I agree that Caleb is a victim. He’s a victim of his parents! He’s a victim of being used for attention, not from having a microphone taken from him.

      Do you really think people are blaming this child for what happened? No, people who have gotten all the facts are blaming his mother, and rightfully so.

      I’m curious–what is the source of your information that led you to arrive at your conclusion about the situation?

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  19. Hello, well, I DID say I was going to share your blog, didn’t I? lol. I didn’t realize my article would go viral- I’m sure that yours must have gotten hit too. If you like, can you give me a ‘call’ at my site and we can talk behind the scenes about all this? I wrote another article specifically about the social media mob and the types of people I saw in it. You can read it and see if you saw the same thing. I’d love your input. I saw, in one of your comments to a gentleman, that you, too deleted the nastier comments. But I saw that you left a slew of the negative ones in an effort to be ‘fair’ and balanced. I didn’t. I figured that the negative side already had their say in the tens of thousands of other comments on other venues. Ms. Lindsey deserved something nice for Thanksgiving and Christmas. For the most part, I only allowed certain negative comments for the sole purpose of contradicting them and after that, just let people apologize. I want to thank you for posting this letter. Without this letter, no one from Nutter Fort would have come forward. The intimidation from the mob was just too much for most people on the other outlets. Here, because of what you wrote, most people felt they would be safe if they added positive notes. YOU WERE THE ONLY ONE who had anything good to say to this lone woman who was enduring a crime against humanity- and for that, I know that Jesus is proud of you. I am proud of you. It was only after I read the incredible eye witness comments from your readers that I decided to write my article. My article is nothing without your article. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for having the courage to be the only woman to stand up among the millions of people who constituted an angry mob. I salute you!! Truly. I am amazed that it seems that women are the ones standing up for Christ these days. Melissa’s Sweetcakes, Arlene’s Flowers… All persecuted for Christ. These are what our Founding Fathers did. It’s what America is based upon. I wish there were more who would stand up for the little guy instead of being so ready to jump on the band wagon to destroy. I’m just so joyful to report the thousands of repentant hearts that came forward to say things like, “I was one who convicted you, but I am now so sorry…” I wish I could speak directly with the teacher, but she has been silent. I have no doubt that she has a gag order on her, lest she lose her job. Some have even said her silence is her guilt. They fail to understand that her supervisor has already spoken and hence, she would be told to be silent for the school’s sake. Some even took the Supervisor’s statement as ‘proof’ that she was wrong. I listened to it. It was no such thing- they just don’t understand the politics behind his statement. He had to say what he said or be charged by a raging public of speaking ill of a mother with an autistic child- that is tantamount to ‘punching the Virgin mother in the groin’, as I said on my page. lol. No. He had to say it could have been handled better. And of course, ANYTHING, in hindsight, could have been handled ‘better’.

    In any case, cheers from my page! Susan

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    1. I have been shocked by how much response this has gotten. I had so many things to do that day but I felt strongly impressed to take time to stand up for this perfect stranger who was being so horribly treated. Yes, I read yours too 🙂 Nicely done. I struggled with which comments to let through. I felt like you too – that the other side had their chance. But then I figured if I did let the negatives through as long as they weren’t filled with profanity (I deleted many such) that other people would jump in and set them straight. Which happened. Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate it!! Yes, I will get in touch with you this week. Blessings!

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    2. why even allow comments if you are going to delete any from “the other side” it’s really much of a conversation if you only allow those that agree with you to comment. It’s nice that more comments have been allowed here than on your page…

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      1. Dear Ken, as I said, I am a private blogger. I write opinion pieces. The intention of my last piece was very unique- it was to restore the sanity and well being of a woman who was the victim of a mass hysteria mob. What I find so interesting is that you still want to attack her. You know that you have nothing original to say. You know that she has already received tens of thousands of hate mails. And yet, you aren’t satisfied. May I ask you way? Why do you want to ‘add your two cents’? Most of my articles are open to any opinion on a given topic. But I always give myself full permission to delete at will. Why? because I am not a news source. I use news sources by which to form my opinion. I then give my opinion. If I choose to delete comments, it is always because of the following reasons (and I would silence people if they did these things to my face and in my house- so would you, by the way)

        1) they are incredibly rude to me.
        2) they didn’t bother to read the article
        3) they didn’t read the comment I wrote back to them.
        4) they are repeating themselves over and over again and the conversation is going nowhere.
        5) they fail to address a single point in my article and just say ‘You have no argument.”
        6) they fail to give any examples or explanation for saying that my article makes no sense, is illogical, is ‘strawman’ or ‘unscientific’, ‘lacking in scientific proof’ or any other of their tired criticisms. They believe that their anonymous declaration that it is ‘so’, makes it so while I, on the other hand, just spent hours making a laborious and well thought out logical argument. Sorry, just too boring to allow on my page.

        7) they curse.

        Basically, people have to have read my article and then have to have enough respect for me and the TOPIC at hand to formulate a decent critique for me to want to even debate them. If someone leaves a lame, teenage level spouting-of-the-mouth comment, I feel no more obligation to print it than they felt in creating a decent comment.

        Now, you have commented TWICE on this article, for example, Ken, and you have said absolutely NOTHING about anything. Would you like to speak to the article or NOT?

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      2. Ma’am, I see your frustration, however I beg of you to never use the phrase “teenage level” again. It is rude, you do not like to be judged based on the voice of a few, and neither do I, nor my peers.

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  20. Looks like the mother hasn’t given up. Someone asked on her FB how Caleb is doing and she replied: “His is doing good still having trouble with that freaking school but we are going to have yet another meeting soon.”

    I wish the rumors that Mrs Lindsey is suing Caleb’s mother were true. She so deserves a lawsuit for what she did to that poor woman.

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